Mundane Monday

I'm fighting discouragement today, just seems like I'm constantly overwhelmed with all there is to do. I try to tell myself to look at all I have gotten done instead.

Had one breakthrough moment last night during a conflict with Mitch. To put it in a nutshell, I like to talk through (often in repetitive circular motion) to reach resolution, he likes to quickly take action to reach resolution.

So a recurring pattern is that I'll say one thing, meaning to vent, and he'll quickly respond with a decision, when that wasn't what I intended at all, plus I feel short-circuited, shut-down.

Last night it finally occurred to me during one of these that he doesn't mean to shut me down and he isn't being spiteful to respond so quickly, he's just seeking resolution. And I tried to explain to him that I need to hash through things, and I need him to stay and listen to the whole thing and just process through it. He's not real big on that.

But the good part is that for one fleeting second, instead of feeling abandoned and hurt, I caught an insight that it's just his temperament and not trying to hurt me.

I've been thinking lately that married people don't reveal enough about our conflicts, so single people may think we're just more spiritual and perfect than them, and younger couples don't learn as they could from more experienced couples. So I've been thinking I should blog more about marital conflict. But it's obviously touchy, one doesn't want to say EXACTLY what one is thinking, right at the time. But if you never say anything at all, then how can we learn and grow from each other?

So for you who like "raw" blogs, there's my bit of sushi for a Mundane Monday.